You’re Not Lost—You’re Shifting

We’re back—and we’re so happy to be here. 💛

After taking a break to reset, recharge, and realign, we’re returning with a new energy, a new space, and more real conversations than ever.

Have you been feeling different lately… not in a bad way, just different?

In this episode of Mama’s Playground, we talk about that quiet, internal shift that happens when your mindset changes, your priorities evolve, and life just doesn’t feel the same anymore.

From burnout and emotional overwhelm to motherhood, friendships, and learning to set boundaries, this is an honest conversation about what it means to grow through different seasons of life—and to finally start choosing yourself again.

If you’ve been feeling off, questioning things, or simply outgrowing old versions of yourself… this episode is for you.

You’re not lost—you’re shifting. 💛

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Have you been feeling different lately? Not in a bad way, just different. Like your mindset shifted, and things don't hit the same anymore.

SPEAKER_00 0:14

Welcome to Mama's Playground.

SPEAKER_01 0:18

Welcome! Welcome back. Welcome back.

SPEAKER_00 0:20

Yes, welcome back. We've been in a hiatus. Yes. But we are back and we're so excited. New studio and new energy, and that's exactly what we're gonna be talking about today. When your world just feels different.

SPEAKER_01 0:35

And you don't know why. It's like an internal shift, but everything around you just needs a little change, a little new energy, a new fresh haircut, a new uh studio, a new just a new vibe all together, right?

SPEAKER_00 0:48

This year, and I know for you it did, it started heavy. The last episode that we did, we were just trying to find room in our busy lives, not only physical but emotional. We had so much going on, and we were trying to do episodes, and we said, you know what, we need to stop and then come back when we can bring good energy to you guys.

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Yeah, our energy was was, I think it was just exhausted. Exhausted energy. And I think you know, mothers out there, we can relate, right? Everything that we've got to do, everything we've got going on, not just moms, but everybody. The world, the way that everything is flowing, just you know, everything is so Debbie Downer sometimes. And I was like, nah, Darlene, let's let's switch this up. New podcast room, new energy, new everything. And that is exactly what we're gonna be talking about.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

That's exactly what we're doing. Yeah, because in life, things happen, you know, you have which happened to you, you lose family members, or just any situation that can totally bring you down. Sometimes I'm so overwhelmed with stuff that could be going on in the world or in my personal life, and then I remember I would come back from dropping off Luna and I would just go straight to bed. It's like I don't want to work out, I want to go straight to bed, and then I would wake up feeling heavy and I couldn't think straight. Exhausted. So it's like these little shifts that we're gonna be talking about, kind of like in when you come home and you feel tired, that's exactly when you have to be like, Nope. I'm getting up, I'm getting up, I'm gonna call my friend that makes me laugh. Those are the shifts that we have to work.

SPEAKER_01 2:22

A thousand percent. A thousand percent. Let me explain to you this kind of shift, also like for me personally, that that happened. In when we started the new year, I had just come back from a very nice vacation with my family. I had taken almost the whole month of December. We were in Europe, my parents, it was a trip that I had planned for a very long time to spend time with them, which was awesome. And then we get back and it was like boom, boom, like, but I mean not boom, like wow, explosion, great, meaning down, you know, downhill. It was like a lot of things going on. And for two months from January to February, I was on a Debbie Downer mood. I could not get my shit together. I was down, I was depressed. I was like, Darlene, the energy is off. And then I started. I mean, for those of you that have faith, right? I started to pray a little bit more. I started to say, you know, please give me something, something. I have two kids, I gotta keep moving forward. If I continue like this, I am gonna fall in a stupor, like down, you know, depression. Lo and behold, I'm not gonna go into all the specifics, but come March. I said, not get up, go back to the gym, start working out, start getting yourself again, you know, a new energy. Get, you know, take that juju out. You know, I had to do like a cleansing, you know. And I had been feeling better.

SPEAKER_00 3:36

That's why we had stopped also doing the podcast because I mean, we're real, real moms, real conversations, real talk. And to sit here and try to come with a topic and sound happy when I know that you were going through things, it didn't seem right. We have to stay true to ourselves, to the people that listen to us, and so it but now it's different. And life is about that. You didn't wait till mid-year, till June, to say, okay, let me get fit now. You started early, and at the end, that's what helps you in the long run, emotionally.

SPEAKER_01 4:15

It's hard, it's hard because I'm the type of person that I'll tell my friends, my god, you gotta do this. You should, you know, uh try to get out of bed early, do this. And it's hard. I know it's it's super hard. But once you actually start it and you start working on yourself and you kind of shift the mentality of where you've been, if you've been feeling down or so on, you start to feel so much better. And it's not gonna happen overnight because it definitely doesn't happen overnight. I'm not gonna tell you that I am like, oh my God, everything is perfect, life is great, I'm so happy. No, you go through your ups and downs in life, but it's all the way that you choose to look at it, right? I because we could sit there and every time something bad happens, say, Oh, why is this happening to me and dig yourself in a hole? Or you could say, you know what? No, what am I gonna learn from this? I need to keep moving, I need to move forward, let me wake up, let me, I don't know, jump up and down and take off all this bad energy and let me just, you know, and that's that's where we've, you know, I think this is where the new setup came to play, where we said, let's rebrand mama's playground, let's, you know, change the whole energy behind our podcast.

SPEAKER_00 5:15

She's amazing. She designed our new studio and everything, and it's been a crazy back and forth between let's do this, let's do that. Yeah, we changed the cover. I hope everybody likes it. Yeah, it talks to who we are, where we are now in our lives. I'm super happy. But the evolution, but all of this is a process, and we're talking about this. It's like a three people team. Let's include Fabian here because he helps us a lot. But yeah, it's it's a small team, but it's like you say, it's about getting up, and Monica just celebrated a birthday to that. Also pumped you, which I love seeing that because I see a lot of people that when they have their birthdays, they get depressed and they kind of think of what they don't have in life at the moment, where they thought they should be at this stage of their lives. And no, you're actually where you have to be, and it's how you see it.

SPEAKER_01 6:10

And let me tell you something. I'm not the big party girl, okay? I'm not. I every birthday I hit 45, guys, so mid-40s. Um, I hit 45, and I said to Benjamin, you know what? What I want, I want one day away, just the two of us, not even far. We drove to Naples and we stayed in a small little hotel, but it was amazing. Uh the kids weren't with us. I love my kids, don't get me wrong. We celebrated with them the day before, but then we get to the, you know, Saturday to Sunday. It was just the two of us. We spent the whole day at the pool. We had uh Margarita eating, just calm. Like there was no party, it was just a different energy. I'm telling you, it was no pressure.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:51

Yes, yes. That was after, you know, that was after, but it was amazing. You had even asked me, How was your birthday? I was like, it was amazing. It was quiet, but it was reflective. I looked at everything, you know, in my life. I was just like kind of reminiscing like an old movie in my head. And I said, you know what? I've come far. I've come far to who I was when I was in my 20s. Things have evolved. I've got two beautiful kids. We've got this podcast, you know. And I was like, and it's another year on this earth. Thank you, Diosito, like you say. Thank you so much for this other year on earth. What am I gonna do with it now? You know?

SPEAKER_00 7:24

Exactly. That's such a great way to see it. It's a birthday, it's another life, and there's so many things to celebrate. And it's funny how you celebrate birthdays according to your age, right? Yeah. So one of my best friends, Carla, she just came to Florida and she was celebrating her 49th. And she said, I want a holistic birthday. So we went to the spa, and let me tell you one thing that never changes is how important friendships are in your life. I had this weekend, it wasn't even a weekend, it was just a few hours on Saturday and a few the night before because we went to dinner with her and her husband. Those moments when you connect with a friend that you see like once a year. We've known each other for 40 years, and it was just great. It was peaceful. We got massages, we laughed, we talked, we drank proseco, we had good pizza. We left so full of love and just being with friends. For my birthday, I'm usually like, let's go to a bar, let's go to the brewery, let's invite everybody. And now it got me thinking, maybe something like that is very intimate, either with my friends or like you did, just the two of you.

SPEAKER_01 8:38

Yeah, or you do both, you do one day friends, the next day with your husband, and you know celebrate the whole week. The whole week, the whole month, if you want to.

SPEAKER_00 8:47

Of course. My other friend Sarah had another birthday. They were doing meditations in our house, it was an old girl celebration, and this woman came, you know, how do you think the sound healing? Sound healing. How crazy! I'm surrounded now by friends, by women that are deciding to celebrate their birthdays. Different. We're getting older, but wiser.

SPEAKER_01 9:12

And let me let me put out there there's nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate your birthday in big because there's people that I know that they turn 50 and it's a huge bash and it's a party. Awesome, that's great energy. For me, turning 45, I was like, you know what? It was more of a reflective state, and I think it was because of how I started the year, yeah, and trying to get that new energy up and trying to pump myself up for the rest of the year, and so on. So I feel like at this age, I don't know, for the 40s is kind of weird. It's a weird, it's a weird stage. It's like you're not the youngest that you were, but you're also not the oldest.

SPEAKER_00 9:45

We're like the sandwich generation. Have you heard of this? Yes, which is we're taking care of little kids. Well, we are a lot of people in their 40s already, their kids are college, but but you're still taking care of them, right? And then you're also taking care of your parents.

SPEAKER_01 10:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:02

Yeah. So it's in our 40s, especially women, I want to say, we have all the responsibility of the kids. And then at the same time, your elders, you know, your parents. It's funny when I go out with my mom and Luna, I'm in the middle, and then Luna's like walking super fast, and my mom is walking super slow, and I'm in the middle, and I'm like trying to hold them both.

SPEAKER_01 10:24

Which in theory is where you are in life. And it's exactly where you are.

SPEAKER_00 10:35

Take your mats, you know, have fun. It's very interesting, and it's so beautiful. We're caregivers right now.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Yeah, and to both generations, and then, but then that's the thing. Then we we this so again we'll we'll talk about this on a self-you know, care day, but then it's like who cares who take care of you, take care of you. Does that sound like you know who take care of you? We do, yeah, yeah, and that's right. You have to find that time.

SPEAKER_00 10:57

When you talk about shifts that you're going through now that you had a birthday, and when you were talking to me about this to do the podcast on this topic, I said, This is crazy because lately I felt the same way. I felt like this shift, it has nothing to do with birthdays, but maybe just the overload of things and responsibilities, and it's a time when you just have to know when to say no. Um not to say yes to every commitment, also how to keep friendships that are not doing you any good, or they taking too much energy from you, kind of like also backing off from that. I don't know, it's just prioritizing yourself, your mental health over anything.

SPEAKER_01 11:42

Your priority, setting the boundaries and all that. It's such a sudden shift. It's not like you change overnight, it's something that starts to creep up. And I think it comes obviously with the experience of your life and what you've been through and so on. And then you get to your 40s and you realize how fragile life is. How fragile life is when you start seeing your parents getting older, you're getting older, and you say to yourself, you know what? Like I, at least where I'm at right now, I say to myself, I want to live my life present, you know, on a daily basis. I want to be present. I don't want to be, you know, off in the future or in the past. I want to live today and I want to be fully present, which is hard sometimes. It's very hard to do that. And then I think that's where the faith thing started coming in for me. I've always been a person of faith, but as of lately, I want to say, I don't know, in the past couple of months, I've been even more in tune with that. More in tune of like, you know what, we're not here forever. Uh, we need to be able to live our lives, do the best that you can, be a present parent, but be there for yourself as well. It's just a new energy. And those sudden shifts, it's funny because again, it's not something that happens overnight, but people start to see something a little different. They start to see, maybe for me, I've always been very fast-paced. I'm a person that overexplains myself. I still do to this day. I always feel like I have to overexplain myself to people. And lately, I in subconsciously, in consciously, I've been saying, I don't need to explain so much to people anything. I don't owe people anything. You know what I mean? I really don't owe anything. And I have to kind of take that mentality and kind of shift it and start saying, I need to start also living for me, not always worrying about what everybody else is gonna think or or how I'm gonna make that person feel, although I'm very conscious of it, right? I don't want to hurt your feelings, I don't want to hurt the other one. I am very conscious of that. But at the same time, a new energy of kind of scaling back and trying to people please everybody.

SPEAKER_00 13:33

Yeah, you can.

SPEAKER_01 13:34

You know?

SPEAKER_00 13:34

No, and we do that again as a sandwich generation. We try to please, yes, yes, and we also try to please always our kids. I want to see my friend Friday, and I want to see the other one Saturday. Hold on. Yeah. Just the last weekend for the birthday, it felt good. I dropped Luna off at my parents and I said, I'm gonna go and celebrate with my friends. And sorry, oh, but what about me? I'm not gonna see my friends this weekend.

SPEAKER_01 13:58

This weekend is for me. Yeah, is for me. I think that we, at least our generation and how we saw our parents, I think most of the time they probably gave up a lot to give us the things that I don't know how your parents were, but I know that my mom probably gave up a lot of things to just be there for us and do the things for us and take us to our classes and take us toward things, which I do. But at the same time, there's a part of me that says, Yes, I want to be there for my kids. Yes, I want to do this for my husband, yes, I want to do that for the people at work if I need to do something. But what about me? I also need something for me, you know? And it's again, it's a sudden shift. It's not like I'm gonna say, Sayonar everybody, screw everybody, say exactly. No, no, it's not like that, it's just it's very subtle. And when you start saying, No, I gotta pull back and I'm gonna take care of me and I'm gonna do the things that I want to do because I don't want to get down to be 80 years old and say, My God, I lived my life for everybody but myself.

SPEAKER_00 14:51

Sometimes what you want to do is nothing.

SPEAKER_01 14:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:54

What you want to do, and that's okay. Absolutely nothing. Luna doesn't have siblings, so when weekends come, all she wants to do is be with her friends. And lately I've kind of stopped that and I said, because she said, Oh my, you're always doing chores and you're always busy and you're always working. So I'm trying to also take sometimes during the weekend, and we're gonna do church. We've been going to church every Sunday, and it's her who's asking for it, and I love that because that's another topic. But when you said spirituality and all that, that has helped me a lot in the last six months. Anyway, that's another story. But wait, we were talking about oh, so we went to church and then we went to the pool. Mom, who's gonna go to the pool with us? Nobody, just you and me, baby. And it was so great because when you say presents, that's another thing. The kids are growing so fast, and you don't want to look back when they're not home anymore and be, oh my god, I miss having them around, I miss all the craziness, and maybe I also miss moments that I didn't have with them. I didn't even know they had this toy that we're throwing out now, and I never sat down to play with him. It's about also being present in your kids' life because time and this is so cliche, but time really goes by so fast. I have a second grader, now you have a third grader, soon and Noah's going to first, right?

SPEAKER_01 16:24

And Noah's going to first grade. And it was the other day that you and I met, and they were these little things. Like Noah was this little chunky thing that had a little mushroom haircut, and he was all chunky and chubby, and now he's like elongated, and he looks like a little man, and the way he talks to you and Jacob too. I just like look at both of them and I say, Wow, where is time going? And this is where I say I need to kind of stop and enjoy the moments, even though sometimes I am still rushing because it's just it's normal, and and and just a shift in everything. Take care of the kids. Yes, be present also in your in your relationship with your spouse if you are with somebody, friendships, you know, and and all of that. Just be present with the people that you love because time is fleeting. And I think it goes faster in our age range. I really do, because in my 20s, I don't remember it going this fast. I remember it being a little bit more slower-paced, or maybe I wasn't so conscious because you're not gonna be kids. I guess, but I don't think I was so conscious of the time.

SPEAKER_00 17:20

Now when you in your 20s, you're not conscious of anything. Of anything.

SPEAKER_01 17:23

Yeah, you're conscious about yourself and like going out and having fun and enjoying, which was amazing, but now we're in a different tune, right? It's a different, a different energy.

SPEAKER_00 17:31

I wish I knew in my twenties what I know now. I don't know. I would have done things differently, but at the same time, I'm not gonna beat myself a regret.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

You just know regrets.

SPEAKER_00 17:46

Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01 17:47

Yeah, absolutely. Everything is a learning experience. I always say this bad things that happen in one's life. We could sit there and we have two options. We can take it like, oh my God, why is this happening to me? Uh, and and become the the what? I guess like the debie downer. I always say debby downer of like your whole story and be like, oh, the victim. Or you can say, What is God trying to teach me? Or what is life trying to teach me here? What can I learn from this? And again, when bad things happen, I think you start to realize the big picture that you won't be here one day. We won't be here one day. Let's be realistic. And it there's a beautiful part to that because that means that you should appreciate every freaking day of your life, and you should appreciate the people that you have around you. And when you're having a freaking bad day, you stop for a second and say, What do I have around me that is great? I have my family, I have a roof over my head, I have food on my plate. There's so many other people having it worse. Get out of it. And I had to do that for myself this year. I had to say, stop being a Debbie Downer. Yes, shit happens, but you know what? Stop drowning yourself in things that are inevitable and just have faith that things are gonna work out the way that they have to work out, right?

SPEAKER_00 18:59

When you say that, stop complaining. I'm always like, oh my god, I want to lose weight, especially for you know the summer, and I want to wear my two-piece bathing suit. But then, oh man, like I was saying earlier, sometimes I get home and I just want to go back to bed, my back hurts, I'm tired. I need to work on that because let me tell you, this morning, Monica's husband he woke up at five, he went to do jujitsu, played jujitsu. I don't know how you phrase it. He went to do jujitsu, do jujitsu. Then he comes back, he takes the kids to school, he comes back, he works out, he takes a shower, and he goes to work. So he's doing all of that because we have the studio in Monica's house. And I'm like, wait, did you really go this morning? Yep, yep, yep, yep. And he just walked out of the house with all this energy.

SPEAKER_01 19:50

But let me let me bring something to the table. Don't kill, don't kill.

SPEAKER_00 19:53

No, I'm not gonna kill it. I'm not gonna kill it. Because I was like, I wanna that's it.

SPEAKER_01 19:57

I don't want people to feel guilty because you know what people look, it's it's and it especially happens on social media. This happens on social media. You look at somebody's reels or you look at their life in their stories and all that, and you're like, my God, this person wakes up at five in the morning, they've got it all together. No, this is a struggle. You think he wants to wake up at five in the morning to go to jujitsu? Nobody does. Yes. And it's like once you do it and you accomplish whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish, you look back and you go, I don't have regrets. But you know where the regrets come? When you have it in the back of your head that you should not should, but that you want to wake up in the morning, let's say work out or meditate or whatever it is you're into and you don't do it. That's when you are feeling down. That's when you get yourself in like the quicksand and you can't get yourself back up. It's an ebb and flow all the time. It's not always consistent. You're gonna go through your bad days, you're gonna go through your good days, but the thing is, it's the energy that you put into it. So when you're feeling down, I told Darlene this the other day. I was like, Darlene, for our podcast, before we start talking so that we have energy. And if we're feeling down, like let's jump up and down and like you know, like just take out all the energy. I think Tony Robbins does this. If you guys know Tony Robbins, he does this in his um seminars. And it's true, it's like just take the juju, take all the bad energy out and start the day thankful and appreciative and with energy. And you know what? Things start to shift. It's not gonna shift overnight, but it's a little thing that you do every day. I don't know. I that's where I am right now. And again, maybe in two months I might be in a Debbie Downer again, and I'm like, nope, damn it. Get out, smack yourself, put cold water on your face, let's move. And it's a constant ebb and flow. And I think there's things that you learn from this process because it's not a perfect process. And people want to judge you when you're on social media, let's say a personal trainer and they haven't worked out for three weeks, but their whole content was of them building muscle and eating good, and all of a sudden, three weeks later, they see that they gained 10 pounds. People are already judging and saying, Oh, you see, uh, that's so you know what I mean? And it's like this is life, guys. It's not a consistent road all day long. Everybody goes through bad and good moments all the time, and it's just a matter of working on it.

SPEAKER_00 21:57

Those days that you're not feeling too good. Good with yourself or whatever, don't go on social media. Oh my gosh. Don't go on social media because you're gonna see somebody that has what you want right now. It could be, I don't know, whatever, or just pressure. Sometimes I go in there and these are the things you should be doing with your kids, and these are all those shows that are out here in Broward County or Miami Dade or whatever to take your kids over the weekend. And you go in and you're like, Oh, I'm gonna take her. 80 bucks per person. And then I start feeling guilty. There's a Disney on ice, and I want to take her every event they had. I was feeling so bad as a parent because then here we are on the weekend, just laying out in the pool, and I'm thinking, oh man, there's so much, so many events that I could have taken her. I had to stop myself and be like, I can't be trying to be everything and do everything and always have her entertained. Sometimes the best thing is just to sit down and give her your time and attention and play a board game. But social media, I mean, it's it's a there's a it's it's good and bad. It's so many things, but if you're not in a good place, oh yeah, if you're depressed, if you're going through anxiety, don't go because the bad could get worse. So, what you do, go work out, go for a walk, go call your friend. That helps me so much. Yeah, do something, but don't go on social media, go by what other people are doing, which you don't know if it's true. True or not.

SPEAKER_01 23:27

It's not like Instagram, you go and they make a beautiful feed, and then you see these women that have it, you think they have it all together. Like, wow, they they make breakfast in the morning every day perfect with like a little happy face on the eggs, and they do this all the time. This is bullshit, guys. It's bullshit. This is all content. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, I'm just saying it's never so picture perfect. Life is not picture perfect, and we need to get out of the thing of we need to look like this and we need to be like this. Work on yourself, do the things that make you feel good, change the energy up. And when you're feeling down, call the person that makes you feel good. There's just so many um things that you can do when you find yourself digging yourself in the hole where you can hardly even see past the sand, right? Is when you start saying, I need to do something. Because once your head is dug all the way down in the quicksand, let's say, it's very hard to. I mean, I'm not saying it's not doable, but it's very hard to try to get yourself back up if you don't have a good support system, if you don't have a good mindset about it. And it's very easy to fall in the trap. It's very easy to fall in the trap. And I think we all do, and all the luxurious people that you see online fall through that too. But here's the difference there's the ones that will let themselves fall quickly and they won't see the light at the end of the tunnel. And then there's the people that don't see the light for a minute, but they say, you know what, I'm gonna find the light and I'm gonna figure out how I'm gonna do this. Or I'm gonna figure out to do the things that I need to do to, you know, feel better for myself and for my family and so on, you know?

SPEAKER_00 24:50

Yeah, like go to therapy or go go get a haircut in the middle of the week, which I just did. And usually you're like, no, I'm gonna get my hair done when there's an event. Hey, yeah, the event was that I was exhausted, I looked like crazy in Carline. You know what? Let me do this now. And it's crazy what a haircut can do for you.

SPEAKER_01 25:11

There's something psychological about that though. Years ago, I remember seeing, I think it was Lenny Kravitz, I think he had cut off his dreads, and they had said like the energy, once he cut off the dreads, it was like the energies just flowed out of like his head or something. So there's something about that that when you cut your hair, or when you I don't know, it's just or you buy yourself a new clothing that's new. Yes, a new color.

SPEAKER_00 25:35

It's crazy. Going to the store, I need this, I need that, and then this happens to me. It's easier for me to shop for Luna than for myself. So then I'll go to the kids section, and then I'm like, no, no, she doesn't need anything. She doesn't need anything. Yeah, let me buy something for me. I just did that this week. I went to get shoes. These are my shoes, they're my size.

SPEAKER_01 25:56

You could put them on and then look at your foot and be like, whoa, my foot looks beautiful and these shoes, and you admire, and it's just a different energy. Yeah, you have to. It's a different energy, it's everything, it's just a little change. I was telling this to my mother the other day. My mom's 75, okay? And I was telling her, Life is short, life is fleeting. Do things for you because she's always been a very like caretaker. To this day, I'm 45, my sister's 50, okay? To this day, if it was for her, she'd live her life for us. And I say to her, I don't want you to live your life for us. I want you to live your life for you. That's it. We are no longer in your house. You don't have anybody there that you have to tend to besides my dad, okay? It's just the two of you. Enjoy your life. I want to see you happy. I want to see you traveling. I want to see you enjoy. Hopefully, the next 30 years, I want God to give her to 120 or 110 or whatever. But enjoy your life. And it's hard because she comes from the mentality of everything is for your family. And so she puts herself to the back. And this is where I think where I land consciously and I say, I love that, and I love being there for my family, and I love being there for my friends and being a cheerleader for everybody when they need one because I I don't do it with you know a pat on the back. I do it because men nace to do that, right? But at the same time, I say, I need to be my own cheerleader too. When I can't find that cheerleader, you know, in my group or people are busy, what am I gonna do to get myself moving? How am I gonna shift the energy? And it's up to me. I'm the only one in control. It's very simple. It's from changing a room in your house to shifting furniture in your place and just feeling something new when you're feeling estancada. You gotta do something to keep moving forward. And it's like going to the gym. Everything takes time, everything takes practice, nothing comes overnight. Whoever shows you that on social media that they, I don't know, whatever, they they were poor, and all of a sudden yesterday they showed something that they're a millionaire. It doesn't happen like that. Behind the scenes, they have been busting their ass off to get to where they need to go. My mom's always been a great support system to this day, which again, right now, my gift to her would be if I could, I'd say I'd send you off to Spain for three months and go enjoy your life. I don't need you here, I'll figure it out. I'll figure it out on my own, you know. But she always wants to be around to help.

SPEAKER_00 28:05

One thing that I am working on, it's you know, when you're thinking about what's gonna happen tomorrow, when you're thinking ahead and the future, and your kids going to college, the emptiness, your parents not being around anymore, that gives me a hell out of anxiety. And then I have to stop myself. Let me live every single moment instead of being anxious of the day that I don't have them around. Let me make it a point to go see them every day. I call them three, four times a day. Anxiety kill, I don't know how to say that word. Anxiety, anxiety.

SPEAKER_01 28:41

Anxiety, anxiety. You are anxiety from what's the what's that movie? The anxiety from the the kids movie.

SPEAKER_00 28:51

Inside out. Inside out, yes.

SPEAKER_01 28:53

Yeah, and you're you have the color kind of going on today.

SPEAKER_00 28:56

And then Lona will probably say that I have a little bit of anger. And that's one thing, twice this week. She's mom, why are you in a bad mood? Mom, why are you acting like that?

SPEAKER_01 29:06

Do you feel like your energy with age has shifted at all? I mean, obviously it's there's an evolution that happens, right? Because you're, you know, I can't think that you're gonna stay the same that when you were 15 till when you're almost 50. No, there's things that happen in people's lives and everything that you've gone through and the learning process and all that that shifts energy. At this age that you are in right now, again, we're two moms with small kids. They're not toddlers now, they're already, you know, we're talking between six and eight years old. And being older, right, in the whole process, not that we're old, but older, do you feel like your energy has shifted somehow? Like do you feel this internal difference, maybe, of the way that you see life, and I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

Absolutely. And I've been feeling like this for a while. I was talking to my friend the other day, and she just turned 40. So she said, What can I expect uh my 40? She was asking me and my other friends, and I said, What I feel that was a huge change for me in these past eight years. I'm 48.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

Um, you said that very low, Darlene. Darlene, say that again. You said that very I'm 48. Don't be ashamed, don't be ashamed, come on.

SPEAKER_00 30:24

I'll be 49 in October 14. Anyway, but the beauty of it is just knowing that you can't control everything. And honestly, in a lot of cases, I just don't give a shit anymore about what this person thinks of me. Obviously, if it's a friend, it's wait, what happened? This is another thing. You have your friends from the toda la vida. You have friends that you meet through your kids, and then you have friends that your kids are friends with their kids at school, so you kind of like have to hang out with them, right? Let's get to meet them. Okay, ideal. Okay, so we were at a pool party, and it was at these rapids place. It was like a couple of the kids from Luna's room, and I'm like, shit, I wanna order a beer. So, anyway, I order a beer and then I order a burger. So two of the parents, they're like, So you order the beer before ordering the food? And I'm like, shut the fuck up. I was like, shut the fuck up. You know what? I'm gonna order a vodka right now. Like, I don't care. In another time, I would probably be like, I Dios mío, what are they gonna think? I shouldn't have, oh, let me order Diet Coke instead. No, and at that point, I just laughed and I said, Yep.

SPEAKER_01 31:40

Who are they to say anything?

SPEAKER_00 31:41

And I walked out, and later in the day, I'm like, I'm gonna order another beer. Does anybody want one? No, no, no, no, no. But anyway, and like I was telling my friend, now that you're in your 40s, you're gonna start to not give a fuck anymore. Yeah, okay, you don't have to be caring about other people's feelings. You're not gonna be able to control what other people think about you. You be nice, you be kind. That's my thing. Kindness, be nice, don't be talking bad about people, stay in your lane and do what you need, and that's it. And keep your good friends close close, and then the acquaintances and all these parents you're gonna meet throughout all the years in school. Some are gonna be your friends, and some are not gonna be play dates for the park because you're not gonna go to their home, they're not gonna come to your home. Park play dates, you know. That's what you can do, and then you can put in your thermal, whatever, your varka or wine or proseco or your water, and nobody needs to care. It's your problem.

SPEAKER_01 32:40

No, you do, it's it's true. It starts to get to a point where it's funny. I had a friend, she was older than me, and this is when I was in real estate, and I used to work in like development sales and all that. I loved her. She was always spunky. I mean, she must be probably in her late 50s right now, and she used to tell me, no, or she was in her 40s when I was in my 20s, so I can't do the math. But, anyways, she used to say to me, Monica, when you get to your 40s, you are not going to care. Because I would vent to her about things and say, Oh my god, can you believe and what she said and and this? And she's like, Ay, pero Nena, why do you why do you care about that? She goes, Aye, mama, you're gonna see when you turn in your 40s, you will start to realize that eso no importa. Yeah, pasa la página. You live your life not selfishly for you. You are conscious, you're not gonna do anything like bad to anybody, but you're not gonna care so much what people have to say. And I don't intentionally go out and try to hurt people. Again, I'm I I usually am people's cheerleaders, but at the same time, there's a part of me that's kind of you know scaling back into wanting to people please to everybody, you know, and and to be, I Monica's so nice and so good. You know what? If somebody says I don't like her because Monica talks too fast and she swears that she's like this and da-da-da. I went on, you know what? Hey, you know what? Move on, you know, you don't need to be my best friend. You know, I I can't please everybody. And that's the new energy that I think that I am in. It's more of scaling back, but also not scaling back. Scaling back in the thing of people pleasing, but also moving at force with wanting to do the things that I want to accomplish, the things that I want to do, the things I want to try, uh, the things that I want my kids to be able to experience. It's a new energy, it's a new shift. And I hope to keep it there. And I know that today I'm like that. Tomorrow could be on a different note, and then it's just al taibaha, al taivaha, you know it's so it's something that you work on, but I want to be conscious in the fact of you know what? You get one day. You get one day because tomorrow is not guaranteed. And yesterday already passed, so screw yesterday. Forget it. That's it. You only have right now this moment that we have. What are we gonna say that we wanna say? Who are we gonna say we we love to the person that, you know, but mentian that like you get this one opportunity. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, and we live our life in automatic pilot, thinking that everything is guaranteed, that we're gonna live to be a hundred and everything is no, dude.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

I'll do it later. I'll do it later.

SPEAKER_01 35:00

It doesn't, it doesn't work like that.

SPEAKER_00 35:01

See, Faoyan, we need a puppy. Not later.

SPEAKER_01 35:05

We need a puppy like now, now, because tomorrow's not guaranteed.

SPEAKER_00 35:10

You know, so one thing that I've also had in my head, you know, the Artemis. Yes, Luna is so into planets now.

SPEAKER_01 35:18

Um, the Artemis, the book? Well, hold on. Artemis. Oh, what I thought you meant the Archemist. I thought you said the Archemist.

SPEAKER_00 35:25

Artemis. I see my accent.

SPEAKER_01 35:27

Artemis.

SPEAKER_00 35:28

And I'm not gonna apologize for this accent. Artemis, the astronauts, the mission that just went to speak. Okay, okay, see, see, were you following that? Do you know what just happened last month or no?

SPEAKER_01 35:40

No, that's another thing. I'm trying to stay away from freaking the news. So I think probably I'm missing other things at the same time.

SPEAKER_00 35:46

When I say something here, it's gonna ask me to cut it.

SPEAKER_01 35:49

No, don't even start. Go, get Artemis Vamo, but sigue to what's in your mind, por favor. Go. Start the Artemis.

SPEAKER_00 35:59

Anyway, no, just seeing all the footage and they were saying, like, when they were going around earth, and it's all these feelings of no sé, como que after seeing everything that they went through and their interviews and and the beautiful pictures that they were sending from outer space, and you're not chiquita, we're like tiny, we're nothing, and then and then in this huge universe. So a week after that happened, I just had it stuck in my head that mission. Every time I was feeling low or something, or I was worried about something, I kept thinking, we're little, we're tiny, let's just love, let's spread love. I don't know. I feel I feel what you're saying. I don't know, I don't know. It's uh I can't explain it.

SPEAKER_01 36:44

But I understand exactly what you're saying. It's something deeper, it's something so much deeper. It's not a surface level thing, it's like something in inside of you that feels like just be a good person, live your life, you know, grab the moments by the freaking I was gonna say a bad word in Spanish. Exactly. But I was gonna say it in a in an ugly sense. And that's here, did wait. This is another thing. This has nothing to do with this topic, but there's something about me that I realized the other day I like to curse. I'm sorry, mom and dad. You guys, Shor me, por favor, no digas esa palabra, eso está feo. But I like there's sometimes, and not in front of my kids, but there's just sometimes I like to curse.

SPEAKER_00 37:24

What's your favorite?

SPEAKER_01 37:25

Uh a lot of things. I like to say, yes, I like to say the effort, and I'm not gonna say it because I'm gonna be polite here just in case somebody listens to this in the car with their child. Darlene, you're bad, you're bad influence.

SPEAKER_00 37:38

Sorry. Again, we're talking about the shifts.

SPEAKER_01 37:41

The shifts, but I love it. I love saying, I do love sometimes just saying it. It's like un liberation adentro.

SPEAKER_00 37:49

It's a it's a look, the f yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 37:53

Yes. And I can't do it in front of my kids, which I don't, by the way. Don't judge me now.

SPEAKER_00 37:57

No, we don't. Oh, but this is the thing. Luna knows which are the words that I replace. So when I say them, she said, Mom, you're cousin. What's your favorite?

SPEAKER_01 38:06

No, I don't want to say it. The F C K F F F C K no. F-U-C-K. Okay, Darlene. Darlene. Darlene. Come on, I'm abbreviating it. But yes, there's just something about it that it was forced. It just feels like liberating. Like if you're in your house by yourself and you're having a bad mood, this is maybe you jump up and down and you say, F-U-C-K, F-U-C-K, like that. Like just take it off like juju.

SPEAKER_00 38:28

No, which is mine. Oh my god, now of course I'm on the spot and I can't remember. Don't say it. No, no, it's the one the replace I use. Oh man, pero puñeta is malo. I don't know what other places it could be, but anyway, I don't want to be saying that one. This just started. When it's in Spanish, I do it in Mexican. Chinga tu madre, puñeta. But that's because you have a Mexican friend. No, but for some reason I'm always saying like chinga tu madre. And I'm laughing. I've never been like that. I've never cursed that.

SPEAKER_01 39:07

Nancy, Nancy, this is your doing.

SPEAKER_00 39:10

So I do that one, but there's one. Ah, okay, it's gonna come to me.

SPEAKER_01 39:14

Olvídalo, don't you? Well, no, our point is what was the point of this whole entire podcast? That we're back, okay. Mama's playground is back. We are in a new setting, a new feel, a new energy shift, just overall, internally with this podcast. Darlene is still thinking about the word that she wanted to say, and she's probably gonna remember when we're like ready to wrap this up. But if you are feeling down, if you started the year off down, if you go through your moments where you feel like you are alone, you're feeling stressed, you're feeling, I don't know, Darlene, stop it. Our whole point was shift something. That there's something's gotta shift. It's not gonna happen overnight. You have to work on yourself. And there's gonna be days you don't want to. So it's just kind of like it's a roller coaster ride, but it is a beautiful thing when you take a little leap forward and do something different for yourself, whatever that may be in your case. Whether it's calling that friend and having a talk with them and being able to vent, whether it's you know, waking up in the morning and saying, you know what, today I'm gonna take a 10-minute walk for myself, just shift the energy. Energy has to move. Once it's stuck, that's when shit hits the fan. Yeah, like it needs to move. So when you're feeling down, ladies or gentlemen, if you're listening, remember this. Remember that everything evolves, it's like a tire that keeps moving forward. Things move. And when you stop, and it's been three months and you've got nothing and you've done nothing for yourself. You can get yourself in a in a in a hole.

SPEAKER_00 40:46

And maybe things around you are not changing. Yeah, maybe you're still in the routine with your your daily routine, but maybe it's an internal shift in you, and don't feel bad if suddenly you want to say no to commitments, just do whatever makes you happy. Don't compare yourself to other moms in social media or moms that you talk to. For example, I feel bad sometimes buying her frozen waffles when I hear other moms that do these recipes where they put like all these vegetables and fruits and grains and protein, and I'm like, oh shoot. So yeah, don't compare yourself and we're doing the best that we can, you know?

SPEAKER_01 41:29

Just wake up in the morning, mira. If you are feeling down in the sense of like, oh my god, I need something, go get a haircut. You feel like, my god, I'm not taking care of myself, grab your clothes if you can and throw it all in the garbage. Take all the shit that you don't like, throw it in the garbage, and shift that energy and go buy yourself three new shirts if that's what's gonna make you kind of feel a little bit better. You go to the gym and you're feeling down and you say, you know what, I'm gonna go buy myself a new pair of leggings. If you like the aloe, which I know a lot of ladies are liking this new brand, it's called aloe. A-L-O. Aloe, I think I'm saying it right.

SPEAKER_00 41:58

Is I like little lemons competition?

SPEAKER_01 42:00

I don't know if it's competition or not, but I know everybody and their mother is wearing this brand. Hasta las viejas ahí de 80 años tienen alo puesto, okay? And so I said, that's great. You like the brand, amazing. Buy yourself. I don't have a buy it, but buy it, buy it. If it makes you do it, do it for yourself. Do those little things that make you move and shift your energy. And if you are a faithful person, my God, leave it to him and pray and say, Help me surrender. There's things that I cannot control, there's things that I will never be able to control. There's only one true thing that is accurate here is the fact that we will not be here one day. And with that mindset versus making you feel like anxiety and Debbie Downer, take it as like I'm gonna grab life by the fucking balls and I am going to move forward and I'm gonna do the things that I want to do. And today I may be feeling down, but you know what? I'm here. God gave me another day here. What am I going to do with it? And that's what I leave you with. What are you going to do with your day?

SPEAKER_00 42:56

Do what makes you happy. And if you're going through a really bad moment, just show up at a spiritual center. The things that can happen when you sit in a moment of silence in whatever you believe in, whoever you believe in, it's beautiful. And I get goosebumps because next to Luna School, there's a church, and there was one day that I was feeling like super low, super down. And I went in, and those 30 minutes, oh my god, I got goosebumps. See, no, they they had a mass from 8 to 8 30, and then they had confession. So I went in, and it was I left there like, oh my god, bring it on. I'm good. And that was what made the difference. Because when I walked in there, I was down, and it was like on a Tuesday, and it changed me. So it could be that, or it could be doing 10 minutes of yoga, or it could be sitting by a lake. Thing that could shift your energy.

SPEAKER_01 44:03

You gotta keep the energy flowing. And with that being said, we're happy to be back. Yes. Back in our new studio space, back with uh just a new energy overall. And we are very excited because we're gonna keep bringing out content and and we're gonna be bringing the what would you do Wednesday? Yes, that's gonna be a new thing in our programming. So we're gonna do what would you do Wednesdays. Ladies, we'll be putting stuff like on TikTok and so on, asking for feedback because there's so many things that we ask ourselves does other moms do this? Is this something that every mom does, or is this just us? And there's gonna be so many different opinions which we love to hear. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 44:39

So thank you for tuning in and welcome back. We're so, so, so, so excited. Welcome back. This is Mama's Playground. We love you guys.

SPEAKER_01 44:47

Bye.